The acclaimed writer A. M. Homes was given up for adoption before she was born. Her biological mother was a twenty-two-year-old single woman who was having an affair with a much older married man with a family of his own. The Mistress's Daughter is the ruthlessly honest account of what happened when, thirty years later, her birth parents came looking for her. Homes relates how they initially made contact and what happened afterwards, and digs through the family history of both sets of her parents in a twenty-first-century electronic search for self. Daring, heartbreaking, and startlingly funny, Homes's memoir is a brave and profoundly moving consideration of identity and family.
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As a novelist, A.M. Homes has developed a reputation for tackling sick themes — pedophilia, arson and spousal homicide are just the beginning. So it’s saying something that this memoir is in keeping with her best fiction. If you haven’t guessed by now, Homes is, indeed, the mistress’s daughter — the mistress being a 22-year-old who gave birth to her after a seven-year affair with her boss. Homes was subsequently given up for adoption, never meeting her birth-parents, and in this autumnal, frequently foreboding tale she unpacks the story of a search for her roots that may be called both a success and a failure. The book’s best achievement is the stretch of prose where Homes narrates the long-delayed day on which she finally met her biological parents at 31 years of age, a piece originally published in The New Yorker that must rank among her best writing ever. That essay forms the core of The Mistress’s Daughter, centering a book that goes beyond the confines of the typical memoir to confront the deep crises of identity and isolation redolent of the best existential novels. With a pared-down style recalling Hemingway and a postmodern mystery reminiscent of Paul Auster, Homes has written a very literary, very personal account of her own life, one with resonances far beyond her own experiences.
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Nothing like as interesting as she thinks she is
The first part of the book, originally a New Yorker piece, is interesting. But when Homes expands her account of meeting her birth parents by adding her research into her ancestors,her self-involvement becomes a problem. This is the sort of stuff you would listen to patiently if you really loved the person who was telling it; Homes, to the limited degree she reveals herself in this account, isn't very lovable. She comes across as self-important, essentially humorless, and not very kind.
